Posted by Sherman Parker Hi, my name is Sherman Parker and first of all I understand everything you just said. I have been through and still going through some of the things you talk about. The depression, saddness, crying myself to sleep, not feeling free, not feeling wanted, and living a lie. Im from North Carolina and this is a very bad place to be gay. I must say first that you have to learn to lover yourself because thats were it starts. Second you have to see that you cant live for family and friends. If they really love you then they should want to see you happy. People told me these things when I first asked for helped and I thought "Easier said than done." However, its true but its going to be hard. You have to start knowing that you can and will be happy with who you are. Im 21, soon to be 22, and I have not come out to family officially but my mom and dad came to me asking if i was gay and i never answered their question, I walked away. Im sure my family knows and its going to be hard on everyone around me but I have to be happy about being who I want to be. The same goes for you too. Im single and see HOT guys everyday...Coming out is a story, Finding Love is a story, but Loving yourself...Now thats a Journey. Nothing that i said is easy to do by any means but loving urself (body and all) is the first step. If you want to talk more about this email me. You seem like a great guy and big or small smile more. :)
Posted by Lee Please feel free to e-mail me and talk about anything. There is the love you are looking for out there some wherre. I would like to be your friend for now and always.
So please wrie me.
Posted by quel i think u should go online and google the gay scene in your area their shoul b alot of things to do. believe it or not but every city has a gay scene
Posted by kelvin your not alone in the world
there are so many people like you
if your that sad talk to someone you think can help you
if you want to be happy, you shouldnt care what your family or anyone else thinks just be yourself and have fun
they would want you to be happy, you cant stay in the shadows you shouldnt be miserable be happy email back if you want i kinda know what your going through and it sucks that you dont have anyone to dump everything on hope you feel better soon and find out what you need and want
Posted by jj Dude, you are not alone. I struggle with the same problem and the guilt that engulfs me because of my religious beliefs. Good luck.
Posted by BJ Honey, I don't mean to be so blunt as to say 'Get over it', but there are people out there who love people for who they are. But until you step up and say 'Screw the world, I want to be happy', you're going to pass them by. Step up, love yourself, go out, and find yourself a guy who is into Middle Eastern bears...because they're out there. :)
Posted by BJ That message made me sound mean. I, too, know how much conflict a young man goes through, and I also know how to hide behind a flesh barrier. I'm overweight as it is, and working through it. I have a wonderful partner, who is supportive, giving, understanding and loving. In Brisbane, there must be tonnes of guys who could meet that...have faith, sweetheart. Be brave. *hugs*
Posted by Jeff I completely understand how you feel. I am sorta in the same predictment as you are in. I am married though and love my wife. I also like to look at other guys and have my dick sucked too. If you want to talk by email or messenger service that I can do. greyguy.
Posted by ronnie hey man i know exactly what u mean. my family is full of nothing but homophobes and i hate it.
Posted by ash hey, yeah as you can see there are so many people around the world who feel the same as u. im from london same age as u and neva been kissed either. so im goin through similar emotions. if u want someone else to talk to, u got me.
Posted by Rick Your not alone. I am in the closet too. I fall in love with my friends and admire their bodies when theyre not looking. I fantasize about fucking them but also about love. It is lonely and depressing. I get so down and frustrated all the time about not being able to touch or kiss or love another man. Im lost too but at least know theres more ppl out there just like you. One day youll find the perfect guy who will make it worth coming out. I know its hare but be patient.
Posted by Seymour Cox Honey! - You are not the only gay boy that has ever traveled down that dark and lonely road. But I can tell you this, nothing will change until you change, nobody will love you until you love yourself. Just be greatful that you're only 18 and still have plenty of time to stop wollowing in your misery and just say fuck it and get to gettin' - Or you can do what I did and keep on trucking down this lonely road for then next 14 years until you're 32 years old like I did before I finally said fuck it. I came so close to giving up on the love of my life, but it all came together. I'm 43 now and I can say that the last 11 years have been 100 times better then the first 32. So the sooner you get going, the sooner you'll find what's missing. You know? - Not just to love, but to love and be loved in return.
Posted by mike dude i understand were your coming from im in the same boat im 19 and i live in toronto it got to the point in my life were i hated my self all i did was work out and i stoped talking to everyone im a jock in school and its hard i tryed to take my life and it would have worked if a friend didnt find me in time after that day i said fuck it and i came out to everyone it was hard but none of my friends looked at me any diff to them i was the same old person they always new and for so many years i thought they would hate me thats why i didnt tell them yes i lost all of my family besides my bro and sis but i said fuck them because they never really loved me in the first place if they cant except me for who i really am and when i came out it was the hards thing i ever had to do but life got so much easyer for me i am only 19 and i live in toronto and i found the ove of my life so things will get better just love your self for who you are its hard when you come out you will lose some of your friends and family but you will get over it trust me im not going to lie i find it hard not talking to my family they will come around i know my family knows they made a mistake now because they cal me non stop but i never give them the time of day i packed my shit the day i came out and i moved out and now im in uni and they want me to come back to vist them i got a note from them last week saying how sorry they are and that they love me so dude trust me life is not hard its just how you make it
Posted by Qamar Dont worry, i'm also leaving a lie. I like this guy but i cant bring myself to tell him this. I have been in the closet for 6years and still am. I know how you feel. If i come out every one will disown me. It's a very hard and sad life. I love this guy so much all i want him to say is that he loves me back. But this never happen.
Posted by Daredevil There's this illusion that homosexuals have sex and heterosexuals fall in love. 2)Life is full of
wonder, love is never wrong. 3) Labels are for filing, labels are for clothing, Labels are not for
people. 4) Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those
who matter don't mind. 5)Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. 6)The Bible
contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals.
Posted by Joey Awww! I am so sorry! I am younger, and I have unwillingly came out to a friend, and that is when the rumor started. The most I can say is that you are who you are, you can dream all you want, like I do, if your family will not accep you.. You should be proud for whom you have become. To be honest, I would rather talk to my friends then my family about love. You are not alone... You really aren't. You are as good as you want to be, as you think you are. Really, at the end of the day, all you can do is rely on yourself and love whom you are. Since I am a young teen, my hormones rage and I long for Romeo to walk my way...To be the one I can hold and kiss. Talk to your friends a lot, they're helpful when you need them. If you wish to vent and talk a out things, please feel free to email me at joeyyy.z@hotMail.com.
Good luck!
Posted by Nathan hey i feel u.......i recently told my bestfriend i was bi and that i loved him.......he said that i was a fuckin queer and to never talk to him again.....it hurt me so bad...if u wud like t0 txt me at (910) 368- 6867
Posted by Brad Hey dude I get you.
Posted by Vernon Lewis Hey Kid
ypur noy alone, rhere are alot of us. but I am here and thanks to the web we can talk